04 January, 2006

Cooperation And Conflict

Being in a relationship is like riding a tandem bike...the guy steers mainly, but both pedal...like according to the created order, the guy's supposed to lead (in love), and the girl's supposed to submit and help all with the ultimate aim of each others' growth in Christlikeness...

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But us being sinners justified by grace (until Christ comes again, then we'll be glorified with Christ), there comes times when the guy doesn't really lead well, or the girl tries to dominate...and the conflicts come...

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Wellll....when the conflicts are unresolvable, then it becomes like how the world does it: war. The winner of this contest of strength is obvious...with the defeated party getting really wet ;)

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At the end of the day, weeelllll...we still carry on with what we're supposed to do as God's people in this world: loving one another (within the respective contexts), striving to do what's best for the other person.

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Okok, on a more serious note, the number of times the conflicts happened has not been zero thus far, caused by things ranging from sinfulness to inability to trust each other (shown in various ways).

But ultimately the solution to all these is still found in remembering the one in whom our identities are defined: Christ our Lord and Saviour, whom first loved and saved us, and now our lives are to be growing toward our ultimate goal: Christlikeness, in loving others sacrificially.

This means that as we forgive one another for our (current) shortcomings and helping them to overcome them, we too also make personal effort to change for the better as Christians, and as people working towards a marriage relationship.

Do pray for us too, ok? ;)

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Glad to see you guys continue to grow and share about your growth together. Continue to have fun growing with each other, centered in Christ!

Mskmouse said...

Thanks hamster. :) May the Lord help both you and PX too as you work on a Christ-centred marriage!

Richmond said...

Hey! never mention bout the handsome guy at the background of the pic u throw fen down! haha

Unknown said...

Who? What? Handsome?

=PPP

Ger said...

Hello...so cute the photos...especially the face off one! My mum walked past and i showed her the first photo and she commented that Mr Ray is handsome leh...good catch ah hao ma! hahahaha

Mskmouse said...

muahahaha...oh..your mum saw the first photo only huh? no wonder, that explains it. somehow he looks better there. ;p

good catch? hahaha...hmmm...i wonder what he thinks. ;p

Unknown said...

I hope I don't get barbecued and eaten with sambal chilli and lime, that's all I ask.

Ger said...

no worries, hao ma won't bear to...hahahaha